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Old 03-24-2008, 7:24 AM   #1
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So much for me getting back into this hobby now..

My girlfriend and I of 4 1/2 years split up over the weekend and she moved out of our apartment. So that means i have double the bills and wont have the money to even think of trying to set up a new tank. Seems like everytime something good starts to happen, something bad comes along and throws a wrench in the gears. Oh well, cant cry over spilt milk (aint that what the saying is?) Yall keep me in your prayers, this is the first time ive ever felt depressed. I feel sick.

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Old 03-24-2008, 7:29 AM   #2
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Chris...sorry to hear about the breakup. Just remember, things happen for a reason. Sometime its not as apparent at first but over time you'll realize why it didn't work out. We have all been through it, some of us more than others. Let me know if you need anything, the ARC family is always here for you!

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Old 03-24-2008, 7:32 AM   #3
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thanks mark, i know this sounds kind of "middle schoolish" but shes always been around and now shes gone. Its weird sleeping in the bed by yourself.

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Old 03-24-2008, 7:39 AM   #4
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That sux man. Flowers and chocolate? That always fix mine. Well maybe in the beginning. Since we have been together more than 10 yrs, she wants something expensive instead.

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Old 03-24-2008, 7:42 AM   #5
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I think we are long past flowers and chocolate, hell even dimaonds and new cars.

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Old 03-24-2008, 7:56 AM   #6
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Sorry to hear that Chris. Yeah, start with the flower, if it doesn't work then go with the rock. If the rock doesn't work then you are SOFL. Good luck man.

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Old 03-24-2008, 7:58 AM   #7
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it seems like its been going down here hill for the past few months, i was the one who "changed". Like mark said, things happen for a reason. Sometimes it takes a door to close for another to open.

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Old 03-24-2008, 8:06 AM   #8
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Well, I cant give any advice, but I can say you may be surprised about having more money after breaking up. Yeah, more bills and rent, but less dinners out, flowers, yadda, etc. Just dont go on a drinking binge...kinda nullifies monetary savings opportunities... :(

But Mark is right. Everything works out in the end, and usually for the best. Dont think you're the only one that it hasn't worked out for. I dated a girl for 5 years, only to find out it would never work! Time will heal you, and maybe her too. Maybe just some 'away' time will do the trick. You'd be surprised.

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Old 03-24-2008, 8:07 AM   #9
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Sorry to hear that.. I'll keep you in my prayers!!

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Old 03-24-2008, 8:18 AM   #10
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Old 03-24-2008, 8:19 AM   #11
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thanks russ.

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Old 03-24-2008, 8:31 AM   #12
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Sorry to hear it, but as everyone has stated... usually for the best. Maybe we can track down a race to go to. Nothing like some fast cars to get things off your mind.

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Old 03-24-2008, 8:52 AM   #13
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Sorry to hear it, but as everyone has stated... usually for the best. Maybe we can track down a race to go to. Nothing like some fast cars to get things off your mind.
haha yeah ill take you up on that offer.

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:00 AM   #14
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dude you are so lucky what i wouldnt give to be single again without any kids....... you are free ......now go find some fresh meat

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:02 AM   #15
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dude you are so lucky what i wouldnt give to be single again without any kids....... you are free ......now go find some fresh meat
great way to look at it victor.

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:15 AM   #16
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Do you currently have a tank set-up, or is the 135 gonna be #1?

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:22 AM   #17
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Do you currently have a tank set-up, or is the 135 gonna be #1?
no i dont have it set up yet. i was supposed to pick up my 135 from sal next weekend. but i doubt thats going to happen now.

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:27 AM   #18
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That's what credit cards are for

But I was thinking, I dont know you like some of the other members here might, maybe if money is gonna be an issue, you can just set up something smaller for now, like as a grow out tank. Get some frags you will want for the bigger tank, and just grow'em up so they'll be sweet in the 135. You know, make cheap frags into nice colonies. Keep it simple? Just an idea. That's kinda where I'm going with my 29 gal.

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:32 AM   #19
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yeah i have thought about that but im still not sure. i think im going to try to pick up a second job just for the tank.

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Old 03-24-2008, 9:43 AM   #20
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Chris, sorry to hear about your breakup. I hope you have some buddies close by that will hang with you or come over and visit. Time will heal you, but find something to keep your mind busy until it does. I certainly agree with the advice of not going on a drinking binge. Be strong. This too will pass.

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